I have to wake Patch and Alexa early because they take FOREVER to get ready. They have no attention span. I'm sure I've written about this before. For 30 minutes I have to remind Alexa she needs to get dressed, for 30 minutes I have to remind them both to eat. Alexa's hair is NEVER done, it's always in a pony tail or left snarly and loose. It's sad, she's such a pretty girl but we always run out of time to do her hair and that's last on the priority list. From the time they wake to the time out the door I have to get them to stop playing/teasing each other and focus on getting ready.
I feel like each morning I yell a little more. I've tried so hard to just be encouraging and remind them what to be doing but it's getting ridiculous and I'm getting tired.
I have been in Caely's class a lot over the last two weeks. Some one told her, "you're mom is really fun, I like when she comes, she's really nice". Caely's response was, "just don't get her mad!" Her teacher asked her what that meant and she told the class that I was yelling and mad all morning. Thankfully her teacher saved face for me by asking if they deserved it to which she sheepishly replied, "yes".
I know my kids don't deserve to be yelled at but I'm glad that Caely could see that I wasn't just yelling because that's what I do, it's because I was getting past the point of frustration into insanity and they weren't obeying. They're lucky all I did was yell. Just kidding...kind of.
I just hate sending my kids to school when I've set a grumpy tone for them for the day.
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How come right now I'm "tear"ing up? Do you know that Charlie calls me every morning after drop off to see how my morning went?
We had a much needed family council and I explained to my children how awful I feel about yelling and what I was going to do to help. They each told us what they would do to help. Mary-Tessa made a list of things she needs to do every morning to get ready on her own and this past week she has been doing so well. She was my "Alexa." Everyone has been really trying this week and I'm just glad we have a break before we go at it again. I hope it lasts because we have had better mornings and a lot less yelling. Yes, I still may yell but it's only once or twice instead of ALL morning!
Good Luck my friend. I feel everything you are saying. AND you are a fun Mom to your kids! See? Your kids know it too!
What if you had a system set up like Janice - with a list - and every time she finishes her list without reminders, she earns something (whatever would motivate her, but that could be a cumulative thing - like $ or tv time or whatever) ANd if you have to remind her, she doesn't earn the reward for the day, and if you have to remind her twice, she loses a privilege...
I don't know. Mornings are hard. Afternoons are hard. Being a mom is hard. Pray. You are an awesome mom. Don't be so hard on yourself. We all have a breaking point.
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