Patch has been doing really well. When it got colder I started putting him in pants, he didn't have too hard of a time once I pointed out they were soft inside. He still hates wearing jeans but will if I beg him. Once they're on he doesn't seem to mind them. I think he gets used to them quickly and forget, it's just the initial wear that bugs him.
While off track last month, Patch did great. He's been back in school for a few weeks and he's been a wreck. Especially last week. The poor kid doesn't know which way is up. He is crying all the time, which makes Chris and me more grumpy so we get short with him and then he gets worse. Thankfully we know this and can try to remain calm, but that's not always the case.
Everyday he asks who's picking him up, like he's paranoid we're going to leave him forever at the school.
We had lots of company last weekend, which made for lots of late nights. Why oh why don't I do what's right for my kid? I know if he doesn't go down early enough it will mess him up for days. It's not the hours slept that seem to matter, it's that he needs to be in bed early. I still can't figure that one out. When we have company I just feel bad that he would be the only one in bed, plus the fight it would take to get him there I just think it's not worth it. THEN, he's a mess and I kick myself for not doing it anyway. I don't know which is worse.
Some days it's such an emotional roller coaster for him, and then I end up jumping on board. It's exhausting.
I am so thankful that he no longer has such huge fits. That the screaming and anger aren't as extreme. That he's learned to control himself...most the time. I'm so glad he's good at other's homes, or so I hear. He's good here too, it's just harder here.
Patch has been playing hockey. We ended up signing him up because he needs to be active and with the winter coming it's harder for him to play outside and get out all the wiggles. It's kind of been a double edge sword. Some day's he's fine going and others he's in tears not wanting to practice. I send him anyway because I know if I don't, he'll be worse off. I figure it's better to torture him for an hour twice a week for practice and a game than it is to have him and the rest of the family miserable 24/7 because he didn't go.
One day I'll full get this kid figured out. I love him so much, it makes me sad to see all that he has to go through.
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I fight with 2 out of 3 boys about wearing jeans and the 3rd one wears shorts cause he's in middle school and they don't ever go outside!
We stay up way too late too many nights and my Tessa suffers and so do those 2 little ones too! My afternoon is destroyed because I don't get them to bed on time either!
You are doing great things with Patch. And one of these days, you will see your work pay off. For now, Patch can feel all of the love you have for him and what he is struggling with! Trust.
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