I think we all have a dark side. It's the place or person we are that we don't want anyone else to know about. I'm there. I've spent since I woke up today cleaning my house, which hasn't been done in weeks (I know, that's totally not me). We've just had so many visitors and busy schedule's I haven't had time. I did clean the bathrooms last week, but that was all.
So today I cleaned. In the mean time, my children have done nothing but complain and argue at every little thing. Patch has been hitting. Nothing is fair to Caely. I've also been told I'm mean.
Are you kidding me? I did all their work and allowed them to play around me, create more messes and took them all over these last few weeks.
I'm sure it's all part of being a mom, I am just constantly feeling like a grumpy, mean mom even though I know I do a lot for my kids. I try so hard to teach them to be grateful, thoughtful and helpful.
Tyler did notice that I was the only one working, and he offered to help. Hopefully that's a sign that the others will learn to be helpful too. I just am so afraid that instead of teaching them, I'm guilt tripping them, which will back fire on me one day.
So, any advice? I already had a Dt. Pepsi and it didn't help ;)
5 comments:
I'm feeling the same way. Nothing is fair, I'm super mean, and no one likes me. Wish I had some advice!!! you're a great mom! You do the funnest things all the time!
Emily! I think we totally had the same melt down at the same time!! No, seriously because looking at your time is probably the same time I wrote my post! Is it the full moon that is out????
I know how you feel and sometimes, that crazy train is not the one we got on but the sane one we hopped on that turned crazy!!
I don't have any advice because I asked for some too! So funny... I am here for support and know that sometimes maybe we give too much and then our kids expect so much! Who knows... maybe we are all affected by the big beautiful full moon! And hopefully tomorrow it will pass!
Ok - I have a lifetime ticket on that train, so I don't know really how helpful anything I could say might be, but here goes:
first, remember that they have had lots of out-of-the-ordinary days with activities, company, and fun, fun, fun. It takes time to come down from that.
second, I know you were being nice by not making them help, but once they start being grumpy at you, put them to work. even if it's something simple like give Patch a rag and have him wipe walls. Being busy has a way of keeping sophie happy here, and that's one of her favorite jobs. (not that I'm saying you consistently do all of the work for them...I know you have them help around the house. this is just specifically about your post)
Third, you are one of the most amazing women I know, and it's perfectly fine to have a crazy train day...
You and Janice need to get together and go out for a shake leaving your children at home with Dad.
I was all excited to read about this fun crazy train you rode on.... I feel like I'm on one every day! Try adding work into the mix of it all! I do job charts for my kids 10 stars ears them a dollar, 25 a snow cone and so on...They work so hard every day! It's impressive! You're such a good mom I wouldn't worry too much. And, atleast your not " A stupid face Mom!" Aparently I am!
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